Trust is such a small word and yet can have huge implications in a person’s life. Some people find it very easy to place their trust in others and this can continue even when they find that their trust has been misplaced or abused. They believe that people are generally good and should be given another chance. Then there are the others like me who have been hurt enough times and had their trust betrayed that they do not find it possible to trust people easily and will often keep people at arms length, with only a few exceptions.
Trust has to be earned and you need to prove that you are reliable and will not let people down who are relying on you for something, either in the workplace, between family members or in a social setting. I have one bond of trust which has stood the test of time but not without hard work on both sides. Like most people I wish to be thought of as being trustworthy.
This friendship has withstood many tests and is still going strong, but the change which I mentioned earlier has caused us both to be aware of the pitfalls. It has often been said that religion is a double-edged sword and we have found this to be true, as religion is the one thing which still threatens to send us on our separate friend and I have realised that this is one topic on which we will never agree so to make our lives easier, and our friendship last, we have decided that we will avoid the issue of religion in our conversations.
Although we are both practicing Muslims, we have differing viewpoints regarding our religion. For many years my friend has been in favour of religious education in schools in the UK and has now enrolled her children in Islamic schools in Manchester, run by a staff of devout Muslims, with a strong emphasis on community training. She believes that this will make her children devout Muslims, who will in turn encourage the spread and the teachings of Islam, whereas my opinion is that this will make her children intolerant towards other religions.
I happen to disagree and think that children should not be forced to study in a religious environment and that the teaching of religion should be a separate process for which the parents need to make alternative arrangements. Many people will say that I am wrong that we should mix religion with education but I believe that it is a matter of choice, as long as the children are happy and doing well at their studies, I am not one to interfere in someone else’s way of live. I am all in favour of giving to Islamic charities but I always do my research before I part with my money and make sure that I approve of the beliefs and actions of the charity I am donating to.